The agamy is a new model for our relations, consisting of the flourishing of social ties on them by dissolving the bonds blocked by the heteronormative monogamy.
I call "gamos" to the understood union or marriage inspired in objective and formal marriage. I call "gamic relationship" to one whose substance is a gamos. Sex is the sacrament of the gamos.
What we call "couple relationship", "dating" or simply "relationship" is nothing more than a gamic relationship. The terms "partner", "significant other" or "person which I’m seeing" are all synonyms for "gamic relationship." The use of the term "relationship" is subordinate in our culture to gamic relationship. Any other relationship needs to be specified to correctly understand its nature. Also needs, therefore, to be defined, in first instance, depending on the presence or absence of gamos. We speak of "friendship" or "friendship relation" where there is a non-specific relationship without gamos. We speak of "profesional relationship" where there is an relationship between two people who work together and have no gamos (whereas, in the presence of gamos, will talk about "relationship with a workpartner”). We speak of "lover" where there is a clandestine intercourse, as sex, the sacrament of gamos, is violated by preventing the establishment of gamos.
Agamy is a relationship model consisting in eliminating gamos and gamic relationship, by rethinking and redistributing gamic relationship components for free use in relationships. According agamy terminology, the meaning of "relationship" refers to its generic meaning of "link or connection between beings." More or less closely, all beings are linked. The relationship or link between humans is a completely non-specific term with respect to the characteristics of the relationship. Any determination of the nature of a relationship must be described in addition by describing these characteristics.
Agamy is therefore abandoning the substantial element of the structure of our current relationships; different and opposite to monogamous heteronormative system model as well as to any of its alternatives, all gamical.
Agamy is opposite to the establishment of standards aimed at determining relations behaviors to those very standards. Among these standards, with particular determination, agamy rejects the model of reproductive purpose focused on sexual activity called "couple" and advocated by the philosophy of love. Agamy considers relationships as dynamic phenomena whose analysis can only be descriptive and circumstantial, and whose objectives have been previously established only in the vicinity of the completion of a good. Agamy is active avoidance of a certain stereotype of relationship, traditionally called "love", subsuming the rest under their pattern. Agamy doesn’t establish relationship models, and protocols that it’s able to generate are always manageable and are subordinated to their effectiveness.
While it is easy to be agamous in a theoretical way, as long as it is a form of freedom compared tol ove relations, at a practical level the system channels private and sexosentimental life with such rigidity that comes to obstruct and obscure alternatives to the point that love does show himself as the only possibility. To be agamous and enjoy it is necessary to understand how do some of love’s pitfalls work, and disable them.
Agamy, which involves a complete transformation of private life and, with it, social life, is enriched by thoughtful reflection and experimentation, exposed, as it is, to propaganda’s attack of the systemic discourse of love. Therefore, it is useful to determine the main lines of its proposal, the implications of which extend across all areas of our culture and society:
- 1-REJECTION OF LOVE
- 2-RESTORE REASON AS DECISION-MAKING MAXIMUM AUTHORITY
- 3-REINSTATEMENT OF RELATIONSHIPS IN FIELD OF ETHICS
- 4-RADICAL REJECTION OF GENDER
- 5-REJECTION OF “NATURAL BEAUTY”. USING OF A CULTURALY CONSTRUCTIBLE CONCEPT OF BEAUTY
- 6-DEVELOP “EROTICSM” INSTEAD OF “SEXUALITY”
- 7-DEVELOP “OUTRAGE” INSTEAD OF “JEALOUSY”
- 8-DEVELOP “FREE ASSOCIATION” INSTEAD OF “FAMILY”